Stop Thief

More often than we care to acknowledge we sit amongst thieves. But there is one thief in particular who wants nothing more than to destroy everychance we have of living a fulfilled life. This is a life filled with the blessings of a joy and peace that we can't truly understand.  He sets out to mask every possibility one may have to embark upon a journey filled with wholeness, especially after experiencing something unpleasant.

When we begin to use our voices to halt the thief in his tracks, that's when we have tapped into the authority that has been bestowed upon us. We have been graced with the ability to say no more. We also have the power to not allow any more disruptive spirits haggle us for the freedom that is rightfully ours. 

Don't continue to allow anything that is not productive to/for your life prevent you from achieving the abundance of what is rightlfully yours. Don't allow lingering effects of trauma continue to place you in a placr where hopelessness is all around you. You have an advocate who wants nothing more than to see us healed and whole.

Remember your peace and joy is not for the taking. Today with the help of One who will fill you with an abundance of hope, peace, love, and joy is waiting to see you through. Blessings!

Don't loose Hope/Faith

  Where there is no hope; there is no faith. Where there is lack of faith; there seems to be no hope.

When a person experiences a traumatic event; be it loose of a job, the death of a loved one, rejection from others (yes, that can be traumatic to some,) abuse, or whatever-two of the most important things that is truly needed is hope and faith. These two words go hand in hand. Faith is the substance of things hoped for; the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1.)

All too often when these two things are lost the one in the traumatic situation feels lost as well. The feeling of loneliness seem to cover one like the water of the sea sinking a ship. What am I to do is a constant thought. Sometimes people even go as far as questioning or blaming God wondering where is He during their time of need.

What we fail to realize is that's when we must truly dig our heels in and stand. Sometimes you may have to crawl; but eventually if one crawls long enough they will come to a place where they will begin to pick themselves up and will start standing. Now they can begin to stand firm in faith as they see the hope they may have thought was afar off.

Do some things appear hopeless? Yes, if one is looking through natural lenses. Are they really? No. When we understand that God is moving in the situation by His Spirit, and all things work out just as He originally intended for our lives (to enjoy life and life more abundantly), we can rest assured that we don't have to loose hope.

Make a committed effort for yourself not to loose hope or faith. Be sure to encourage yourself daily to HOLD ON! Remember the woman with the issue of blood could have lost all hope that she would have ever healed; especially if she listened to the voices of others; but she had that mustard seed of faith that if she could get close enough to Jesus, she would have her breakthrough which would lead; had led to; her healing to become whole.

Don't loose hope because of what your natural circumstances say. Ask God to activate/renew you faith; and dare to hope that what you need is on the horizon. Blessings!

Who Am I?

Do  you ever ask yourself "Who am I?" Do you ever sit back and ponder your answer? Are you being the you that you want to be, dreamed of being, or who  God is/has called (calling) you to be? These are questions we should really ponder each day.

Each of us were called to do something great in life and to fulfill a specific purpose, but without knowing who we are that purpose will sit neglected on the inside of us; the baby (ministry/business/our own unique selves) will lay dormant. We can be in a room full of people and still not know who we are, hiding in the shadows of obscurity.

When we begin to ponder who we are many times God will reveal to us who we are not before He shows us who we are. I guess you can say that is a good thing. Reason being when you know who you are not you don't have to feel as if you have to fill the shoes you thought you did; or be the person everyone else expects you to be. You don't have to put on airs for the sake of others.

I've found that when a person begins to recognize and understand who they are there is a sort of metamorphosis that takes place. The way we see ourselves change, the way we view ourselves begins to line up with our God ordained destiny. Everything about us changes.

A person who learns who they are gets to a place in their lives where they can fully embrace and love on them. They no longer have to be defined by the views of others, the approval of others and how others tell them how they should look, what they should say, how they dress, so on and so forth no longer has a grip on them. They can shout to the world that I am becoming the me that I want to be, I am becoming the me He (God) created me to be. 

God created each of us for greatness, and the only way for us to walk in, operate in, embrace that greatness we must ask ourselves, "Who am I?' As God begins to reveal to you who you are, learn to make no apologies to others for being you. Don't be ashamed of who you are, and who you are becoming. Today learn to embrace all that you are. Remember you are Uniquely You, some people will embrace you and at the same time others may not; but at the end of the day you must be satisfied with you and not allow people to determine who you are or who you are to become. Blessings!

Life/Love after Abuse

If you have ever given your love to someone and they took it for granted, used it and abused it; many times one will be afraid to love and live again. The pain you endured seems to suck whatever life you had in you out; and leaves you an empty shell needing to be refilled.

When a person has been abused by an intimate partner, a family member that person will walk around with the scars the abuse leaves. Many times a person walks around in a fog of despair, shame, and guilt. The abuse has taken something from them that should be precious to everyone-the ability to live and love (not just loving others but learning to love ourselves.) I have heard countless women say, "How could I have let this happen to me?" I have heard these words countless times and we have to realize that it wasn't our fault. We believed that we would never be hurt by another person, especially a person that we love. I was one such women. I never thought that I would be a woman who would endure the torrents of abuse and the after effects that abuse victims go through when they muster up the courage to leave.

Living in the pits of shame, despair (deep depression) living with the hurt, pain, bitterness, and rejection a choice will have to be made by the victim. The choice to live a better life than living in the existence of the past while learning to not only love yourself but come to a place where you decide to live a better life or stay in the cycle of abuse even after you've physically left the relationship.



There is life after abuse.What another person did to you is not your final destination, it is not your landing pad to plant your feet; but it can a launching pad to embark upon a journey of healing and wholeness; that in the end you can share your triumphs, your struggles with others so they may gather strength from your story to embark and continue on their healing and wholeness journey. Will I say that the journey will be easy? Not by any means. In all honesty it will be long, tedious, and difficult. You will cry, scream, become angry, and want to quite. But with a made up mind that you want to live, you want to heal, you want to become whole, you want to love again (I mean love yourself), you want to feel joy and happiness you have a great chance of healing. This is just the beginning of a journey that will be filled with many, many emotions. But when it's all said and done you (the one who has been abused) will be able to look at yourself in the mirror see a remarkable person who has been through hell, (a person who another person tried to break, a person who another person tried to extinguish the flame of greatness in,) but came out stronger. You who were once broken has now been healed and made whole.

Yes there is life and love after abuse. As I write this blog post I smile. Why? Because God saw to it that I became whole as He healed me. I smile because after the abuse I endured I was able to love again.. I learned to not just like myself; but I truly love myself; and because of that I am able to share me (through my story) with others. Yes there is life and love after abuse. Blessings!!!! (Dawn "Lady D" Evans (c) 6/2016)

Living Your Truth

Often times in this journey called life we tend to live in the truth of who others want us to be; and at the same time we neglect the truth of who we are called to be.

You see you can't live for others and live for yourself at the same time. Some where in living for others and living the life others expect  you to live you find yourself living a lie. When you live a lie you live in bondage, you have put yourself in a prison cell where you feel as if you are suffocating.

The only way to obtain your freedom is you have to live your truth. You have to be free to be yourself without worrying about the condemnation of others, without worrying about the disapproval of others, without worrying about others being offended all because you need to be you. Remember your truth may not be another person's truth. Often times it will actually be the complete opposite; but that's ok because you have to be you.

When I made the decision to cut my hair, at first I was worried about how others would perceive me; but a light bulb went off and I realized that I had to be me; I had to be #uniquelyme. In being myself and living my truth some may get offended; some may not understand; and some may not accept it. But what I had to come to realize and we all need to realize is that at the end of the day you will have to ask yourself will you be happy living the life others want and expect you to live or will you be at peace living the life you desire to live. I pray your answer will be the latter.

As you go forth in life you have to make sure that you are happy. It's not enough that others be happy with you; but you must be happy with you. Living in the shadows of the expectation of others will not give you fulfillment; but living in your truth (the truth of whom you are called to be), being an original, being your own unique self will bring you lasting enjoyment.

Today take time out to know you, get to know what it is that makes you smile, what makes you happy, what brings you joy, what offers peace in your life. Today bring out the uniquely you person that resides on the inside of you. Today bask in the truth of who you are!!!!!

Divorcing the Baggage

There are things in a person's life that need to be put out, left behind(as they move forward, divorced, buried, whatever.

Too often when someone is hurt by abuse they carry around a trunk full of stuff; that is until they find the tools to assist them with the unpacking process. But unfortunately until that time comes those bags continue to get heavier and heavier. The heavier these bags get the more they will weigh the one carrying the baggage down. It's not wonder people are stooped lower and lower. it's because there aren't many people there to assist them with the unpacking and healing process.
                              

If not caught the person with the baggage will eventually take this excess baggage to their graves. Day by day the emotional baggage begins to eat away at the very soul and spirit of the recipient carrying it; as it seems they can't release it.

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We can't stand by any longer and watch our sisters, mother's, aunt's, children, and even men walk around hurt by the trials of life. We can't continue to watch by the sidelines as people are emotionally dying. We can't continue to watch our family and friends die a slow emotional death.

Can we do something about this? Yes. There are always people on the front lines who are willing to lend a helping hand. There are people who are willing to get in the trenches and get dirty in order to see a person set free from the emotional baggage that is slowly sucking the life out of them. There are people who will continuously pray for emotional healing.

Our greatest desire should be to see everyone who is tied to unwanted baggage released and set free.






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