Who Am I?

Do  you ever ask yourself "Who am I?" Do you ever sit back and ponder your answer? Are you being the you that you want to be, dreamed of being, or who  God is/has called (calling) you to be? These are questions we should really ponder each day.

Each of us were called to do something great in life and to fulfill a specific purpose, but without knowing who we are that purpose will sit neglected on the inside of us; the baby (ministry/business/our own unique selves) will lay dormant. We can be in a room full of people and still not know who we are, hiding in the shadows of obscurity.

When we begin to ponder who we are many times God will reveal to us who we are not before He shows us who we are. I guess you can say that is a good thing. Reason being when you know who you are not you don't have to feel as if you have to fill the shoes you thought you did; or be the person everyone else expects you to be. You don't have to put on airs for the sake of others.

I've found that when a person begins to recognize and understand who they are there is a sort of metamorphosis that takes place. The way we see ourselves change, the way we view ourselves begins to line up with our God ordained destiny. Everything about us changes.

A person who learns who they are gets to a place in their lives where they can fully embrace and love on them. They no longer have to be defined by the views of others, the approval of others and how others tell them how they should look, what they should say, how they dress, so on and so forth no longer has a grip on them. They can shout to the world that I am becoming the me that I want to be, I am becoming the me He (God) created me to be. 

God created each of us for greatness, and the only way for us to walk in, operate in, embrace that greatness we must ask ourselves, "Who am I?' As God begins to reveal to you who you are, learn to make no apologies to others for being you. Don't be ashamed of who you are, and who you are becoming. Today learn to embrace all that you are. Remember you are Uniquely You, some people will embrace you and at the same time others may not; but at the end of the day you must be satisfied with you and not allow people to determine who you are or who you are to become. Blessings!

Life/Love after Abuse

If you have ever given your love to someone and they took it for granted, used it and abused it; many times one will be afraid to love and live again. The pain you endured seems to suck whatever life you had in you out; and leaves you an empty shell needing to be refilled.

When a person has been abused by an intimate partner, a family member that person will walk around with the scars the abuse leaves. Many times a person walks around in a fog of despair, shame, and guilt. The abuse has taken something from them that should be precious to everyone-the ability to live and love (not just loving others but learning to love ourselves.) I have heard countless women say, "How could I have let this happen to me?" I have heard these words countless times and we have to realize that it wasn't our fault. We believed that we would never be hurt by another person, especially a person that we love. I was one such women. I never thought that I would be a woman who would endure the torrents of abuse and the after effects that abuse victims go through when they muster up the courage to leave.

Living in the pits of shame, despair (deep depression) living with the hurt, pain, bitterness, and rejection a choice will have to be made by the victim. The choice to live a better life than living in the existence of the past while learning to not only love yourself but come to a place where you decide to live a better life or stay in the cycle of abuse even after you've physically left the relationship.



There is life after abuse.What another person did to you is not your final destination, it is not your landing pad to plant your feet; but it can a launching pad to embark upon a journey of healing and wholeness; that in the end you can share your triumphs, your struggles with others so they may gather strength from your story to embark and continue on their healing and wholeness journey. Will I say that the journey will be easy? Not by any means. In all honesty it will be long, tedious, and difficult. You will cry, scream, become angry, and want to quite. But with a made up mind that you want to live, you want to heal, you want to become whole, you want to love again (I mean love yourself), you want to feel joy and happiness you have a great chance of healing. This is just the beginning of a journey that will be filled with many, many emotions. But when it's all said and done you (the one who has been abused) will be able to look at yourself in the mirror see a remarkable person who has been through hell, (a person who another person tried to break, a person who another person tried to extinguish the flame of greatness in,) but came out stronger. You who were once broken has now been healed and made whole.

Yes there is life and love after abuse. As I write this blog post I smile. Why? Because God saw to it that I became whole as He healed me. I smile because after the abuse I endured I was able to love again.. I learned to not just like myself; but I truly love myself; and because of that I am able to share me (through my story) with others. Yes there is life and love after abuse. Blessings!!!! (Dawn "Lady D" Evans (c) 6/2016)